Obsession: What people think of you
Compulsion: Focused out. I am ok if you are ok. Doing and being what “makes” people happy
Though not all, many of our clients attending The Bridge identify themselves as “people pleasers.” These clients constantly put their needs on the back burner, and find fulfillment in other’s needs being met, and their happiness. People pleasers might find that their moods are always directly correlated with others moods around them – when others are happy they are happy, when others lives are chaotic, their lives become chaotic.
Many people pleasers also tend to suffer from other process addictions, such as caretaking and approval seeking. However, through their work at The Bridge, they are able to address the underlying core issues – the pain and shame associated with traumatic events that have occurred in their lives – that cause them to continue engaging in these behaviors.