The Person I Care About Won’t Get Help
It is one of the most frustrating and energy-sapping experiences to watch someone you care deeply about spiral out of control and become someone that you don’t know, a shadow of their former self. Often, attempts at intervening are met with anger and we are left even more frustrated, feeling completely helpless. There is hope.
At The Bridge we believe that in any family system where substance abuse or other addictions are present or have been present in its history, the possibility of recovery for everyone connected with that system is available if one person in that system will enter into a recovery process. It does not have to be the addict it could be you that become the catalyst for last change. It has the potential to change the dynamics of the entire system.
Today more than ever people who are facing addictions of any kind are utilizing the services of skilled, highly trained professionals to facilitate an intervention on their loved one that, in the majority of cases, leads to placement of that loved one in an appropriate treatment program. We have listed here on our site interventionists from around the country whom we know personally and come highly recommended. They are all skilled caring professionals who sole purpose is to facilitate an effective intervention on the person you care about.
More About Interventions
A loved one is in pain. The effects of addiction – to drugs, alcohol, sex, gambling, whatever – are threatening to ruin yet one more life. You’re in pain, too, as are other friends and family members who can no longer bear to just stand by and do nothing. You may also feel annoyed since your life seems to get disrupted as well. An addict is hard to live with.
Whatever your situation, you probably just don’t know what to do – which is the reason to call someone who does. That person is an Interventionist: a trained and skilled professional who will use different types and blends of interventions to reach the desired goal, which is recovery.
There are a few different approaches to interventions. The most basic form of intervention is simply for a family member or friend to tell the addict they don’t like how the addict behaves when he/she is actively involved in their addiction and ask them to stop. You may have tried this approach yourself and received a very brusque response – a response that wasn’t surprising to you. Yet this is a very first step in intervening. But you may also be surprised to know how many family/friends assume that nothing is going to change and keep accepting unacceptable behavior, not knowing themselves how to ask for what they need.
Interventions can be done in a crisis – when the addict is in the ER, for example – where it’s clearly obvious that the addict’s behavior has put him/herself (and often others as well) in danger. Some interventions focus specifically on the addict.
There are also interventions that take a family systems approach, recognizing that the addict, often completely unaware of the emotional stress and crisis surrounding him/her, isn’t the only one who’s suffering. This type of intervention involves family and close friends who have an opportunity to honestly share their perspective, essentially “confronting” the addict with their behavior to break the cycle of denial. Interventionists are increasingly understanding how trapped family members are in the cycle of addiction. This type of intervention is planned in advance and is well thought out.
All interventions are designed to place people in treatment so that recovery is possible. A caring, thoughtful intervention – led by a trained interventionist – can help halt the damaging spiral of addiction.
There are some websites that have been prepared to help you understand more about interventions and answer questions such as:
- What actually takes place during an intervention?
- What are the different types of interventions?
- What can you expect to result from an intervention?
- How do you know when an intervention is needed?
- Who conducts the intervention?
- What kind of preparation goes into an intervention?