Change is hard, and scary, and uncomfortable.
While bad behaviors do not necessarily serve us well, we learned that they can protect us from hurt, shame, anger, and much more; thus, we become comfortable in those bad behaviors.
While it hurts to see the consequences of our negative behavior (especially when we hurt those that we love), it hurts even more to face the reasons why we are acting out. So much so that we avoid getting better.
Why is it so scary to get help and experience healthy change?
We have engaged in the “bad” behaviors for so long that it is what we know; asking us to change those behaviors would be like asking those with healthy behaviors to stop what they know and engage in unhealthy behavior.
Nearly everyone who is in pain wishes that they could break free from it. But many things can prohibit that from happening, such as:
At The Bridge to Recovery, we often hear folks say:
“I didn’t know there was a program out there like yours!”
We often feel like our issues are unique to us, and the idea that a program may not exist for us, while improbable, is a common misconception. Learning about what resources are available is crucial in helping someone who may not present as not wanting help.
Here are some tips for searching for quality resources:
Many of those who object to receiving help are fearful of the financial burden. Learning how to help them put the financial burden in non-shaming ways can help.
If your family is in a place where there are no financial resources available, it can be tough to find care for your loved one, but certainly not impossible. That being said, do NOT let a lack of financial resources become a barrier to getting care.
Often, families reach out to us to say that they want to help their loved one, but cannot do it alone for various reasons. In these situations, we encourage you to enlist a support network that can help you navigate these challenging waters.
Enlist the help of an Interventionist. Their job is to work with the family from start to finish, including setting your boundaries, addressing your loved one, transporting to care, and case management.
Get help for YOU! Sometimes, if your loved one is not willing, you have to make the decision to keep or get yourself healthy. At The Bridge to Recovery, we work with family members of loved ones who are not willing to get help.
Find supportive family programs that are designed to help the whole family. We recommend programs such as Structured Family Recovery.
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The Heart of Phil Leedy Lane
“ Honestly the Bridge taught me something I already knew but had to remember. I am so damn special, valid, and important. Everyone in my life saw it, but me. The Bridge just showed me how to look in the mirror to see for myself. ”
- Jewel, Alumnus