Understanding Anxiety & Depression

Written by nwilcox on July 3, 2018

Depression and anxiety are common reactions to trauma. They can be responses to unresolved trauma, or they may be maladaptive ways of coping when pain and emotions flood the nervous system over time. The system maintains a constant state of emotional “OFF” as with depression or a constant state of emotional “ON” as with anxiety.

 

Are you a Fixer? Do you Caretake others?

Written by nwilcox on July 3, 2018

Obsession: The next “wounded” person or incident

Compulsion: help, fix, do, avoid, and fix pain

 

The need to “caretake” others can be triggered by many different things. When we discuss caretaking, people assume that it means we care for someone else when they are sick or elderly, such as an aging parent. However, when we refer to caretaking, we are referring to those people who put others needs ahead of their own, to the detriment of themselves.

 

What is Codependency?

Written by nwilcox on July 3, 2018

“Codependence is the pain in adulthood that comes from being wounded in childhood and leads to a high probability of relationship problems and addictive/compulsive behavior. It is a combination of immature thinking, feeling and behaving that generates an aversive relationship with the self (self-loathing), which the codependent individual acts out through self- destructive or unduly self-sacrificial behavior.”